I really wanted to name the title for this post “The Art of Sacrifice” but I am trying to make this marketable for Pinterest…sheesh. Anyway, this topic has been on my heart for a while so I wanted to make sure that when I do so, it’s coming from a loving and understanding place. Here goes nothing!
When I looked up the word sacrifice it said a lot about animal offerings and such, but I PROMISE that is not the direction we’re going in lol. This is the one I am referring to: an act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy. Whether you’re a parent, business owner, partner, human being in general we all know what it is like to sacrifice in some aspect or another. As a parent I sacrifice a lot of my wants for the things my children NEED. As my husband’s partner I sacrifice and/or compromise so he and I can do what is best for our relationship and not just the individual.
Sacrifice + Success
These two words really go hand in hand. As I mentioned before, sacrifice looks different for everyone, but I want to give you some tips of what you can place a little more importance on in order to be successful:
- Time- allow yourself 30 minutes to an hour on a Sunday to plan out for the week ahead of you. It will pay off in the long run and so will creating a habit of doing this every single week.
- Schedule- this and time go well together but I wanted to explain a little more on this one. I remember having a conversation with my sister about whether or not I would be looking for another job once my year was up in my current position. We came to the conclusion that even though another role would pay more money, this schedule was ideal for my Blogging and Boutique business. If there is a schedule out there that better suites your aspirations, jump on it and soar.
- Money- this is a hard one, eh? Understand that in order to build that empire, or stock pile some extra cash, it’s going to take money to make money. Be strategic in your budget and planning to make things happen.
- Social- in order to get to where you want to be you may have to sacrifice your social life in some aspect. Think about how much you could have gotten accomplished by spending an hour at the gym or an hour prepping for your week in general.
Right now the biggest sacrifice I am experiencing in my life is my work schedule. I am currently working Tuesday-Friday from 8pm-7am in Supply Chain. If you were with me before all my posts got deleted you know that 1. I HATE a 5 day work week. It messes with my creativity and it just doesn’t feel “normal” to me. 2. Working in Supply Chain/Logistics I have always had a pretty strange schedule. When my kiddos were babies it was awesome because I didn’t have to shell out $1200/mo. for daycare. However now that they’re older…working nights is hard on me at times. One of the many things that I do love about my schedule is being able to be here when they get home from school, developing a night time routine with them, and I get to go on field trips every now and then. Which I learned kids think you’re cool when you can participate in trips. I get a lot of “I wish my mom could be here!” and it makes me feel like being present with my babies matters. Also, back to the whole schedule thing. The kids go to bed around 8:30-8:45 so I am really only missing an hour out of being with them in the evenings before they are getting ready for the next day.
I try to make things easier for my husband by doing the youngest girl’s hair the night before, setting out clothes, and having them complete their homework before he gets in. Does it always happen, no. This is an honest place so let’s be truthful. Some mornings when I drag in at 7:30am I am just tired and I may sleep right up until they get home, and even maybe an hour before I leave. It really just depends on the night I had before and how smoothly it went. One night I was talking to my sister in law and I was having a break down. (these happen often) It’s always good to have someone you can vent to that understands your situation. When I was done talking to her and I felt a little better I left off the conversation with He sees me, He hears me. I know I am not experiencing this for nothing, and it will pay off.
Megan’s Advice Column
Here is where the advice rolls in. Find comfort and confidence in your sacrifices. When other people don’t understand the WHY behind what you do, as long as you have a plan, and your spouse and/or partner is on board, NO ONE has the right to question what you’re doing. If you are a business owner or aspiring Entrepreneur I need you to listen closely to this next portion. When I first started my new job I got REALLY wrapped up in my pay increase and got EXTREMELY side tracked when it came to my personal goals. I was planning extravagant vacations, over spending…literally the definition of “doing the most.” God had to pull me back down to reality and said “Babygirl this is not what I positioned you for. If you want to live like no one else, live like no one else.” From that day on I started going super hard planning for the buildout of MPrint Boutique Putting plans in place, calling for estimates, securing dates, etc. I want you to think about what would happen if you went through 3 years of sacrifice. How different would your life look 3 years from now? Would you own your own business and work for yourself, would you be in a different place financially, would you finish your education and ultimately land your dream job?
There are so many benefits that come with sacrifice, but everyone is not willing to do without one thing while placing more importance on another aspect of their life. I also feel like a major key to sacrifice is knowing what you are and aren’t willing to experience during this extended period of time. One of the main conclusions I had to come to is I will not be leaving my home and buying a new one in the next 3 years. It is just not an expense I am willing to take on while trying to build a business. The beautiful thing about this is not taking on a new mortgage also allows more freedom in our budget as a family to do the things we want. We will have two family vacations a year, and Markaus and I will have 2 vacations alone with one another. Deciding to stay longer opened up doors to experience that may have otherwise been placed on the back burner.
I hope this post was inspiring, encouraging, and helped in some aspect of your life. Drop me some comments below of a time when you sacrificed and your hard work paid off. Thanks for reading!
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